Complete article: 3 minute read, 12 minute video
What does the “good life” look like for men? What do we believe this means?
My belief system began as a young boy. It went something like this.
- Work hard.
- Make as much money as possible.
- Be competitive and stoic.
- Have, nurture and provide for a family.
- Focus on the future goal of a financially abundant retirement where I could finally do what I want.
By my late forties, I had financial and career success, houses, cars, a family, and a pension on the way.
Yet, following that set of beliefs also led me down into the depths of addiction, succumbing to the short-term escape found in a bottle and voyeuristic satisfaction of pornography. I hid these addictions, afraid to share who I was, and what I was feeling, even from those closest to me. I withdrew, isolating myself and wondering what was wrong with me. Why didn’t I feel happy with all that I had achieved in my life?
As I dug my way out of my self-induced rabbit-hole, I discovered another set of beliefs that turned my life inside-out and upside-down. At first I fought against it as it was contrary to everything I knew. My mind reiterated the “shoulds” while my heart pleaded with me to look at a new possibility. When I embraced the alternate story from my heart – a new set of beliefs – a revelation occurred that changed my life, and helped me comprehend why I had been feeling lost and stuck. I finally understood what created long-term health and happiness.
And I’m not alone… A seventy-five year study by Harvard University followed over 700 men from varied walks of life to find out the truth about what really makes men healthy, fulfilled and happy.
This study provides evidence reinforcing what I discovered during my journey. Watch the video below.
Men, there is another way to live. You have a choice.
I would be deeply interested in hearing your story either in the comments below or in a personal message or email.
All the best,
If you want to invest in “the good life,” where should you put your time and energy?
By Robert Waldinger
Published on Nov 30, 2015