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Inspiration and MotivationImage by dgchpy0 from PixabayApprox. 5 minute read

Welcome to part eleven in this series of Practical Tools for Improving Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being.

After the first ten articles, you have a variety of tools to support your mental and emotional well-being. Learning the tools and then taking initial action is the easiest part of the change. The difficult part is maintaining momentum.

This article is focused on Maintaining Your Motivation.

One idea is that it takes motivation to inspire action. My experience is that sometimes the opposite is the case. Taking action results in increased motivation. However, they work in unison. Results are achieved when action and motivation work together.

And before you take action, you need a vision. A vision is the most compelling way to create motivation. A vision is what is it you are trying to accomplish, and why.

The ‘why’ is what inspires the motivation. Refer back to the Choice Comparison Matrix in Part 6 of this series. The ‘pain of staying the same’ is a negative motivation to change found in the Disadvantages quadrant of the current behavior. The inspiring aspects of change (long-term benefits) are the motivational aspects found in the Advantages of the new behavior.

Those advantages of change ‘paint the picture’ of your vision.

However, vision without action is dreaming. Action without vision is like running around in circles. Most people have a vision (think, New Year’s Resolutions). Where they trip up is on not carrying through with consistent action.

Three Common Reasons Why Change Fails

  • Insufficient planning and support resources.
  • Inability to adapt.
  • Loss of motivation.

We’ll go through each of the three common reasons why change fails, and what you can do to diminish the probability of it happening to you.

Let’s use an example to address the different causes of failure.

At 50 years old, Bob’s vision is to run a marathon. It has been on his ‘bucket list’ for years. His goal is to be ready in six months. However, he has not run in over twenty years, and after three months of running a maximum of 5KM at one time, and incurring multiple setbacks due to injuries, he quits.


Insufficient planning and resources.

Bob did not do any research.

One source describes the main elements of marathon training as:

  • Base mileage. Build weekly mileage over time, running three-to-five times per week.
  • The long run. Do a long run every 7–10 days so the body can adjust gradually to long distances.
  • Speed work. Practice intervals and tempo runs to increase cardio capacity.
  • Rest and recovery. Adequate rest helps prevent injuries and mental burnout.

Bob did not identify realistic goals, ones that build upon each other. Short-term goals build toward medium-term goals which lead to long-term goals – building blocks towards the vision.

Think of goals (usually time and/or achievement-based) as a pyramid with your vision at the top. You have plenty of short-term goals that build upon and lead you to your medium-term goals. You have fewer medium-term goals that move you toward your long-term goals (even more specific) and finally to your vision.

Goals Pyramid

And Bob could have made ‘SMART’ goals – short, mid, and long-term.

S – specific (stay on track).

M – measurable (verifies progress).

A – attainable (realistic).

R – relevant (important steps).

T – time-bound (time frame to work towards).

 

Inability to adapt.

Bob had thought of ‘one way’ to get to his vision. He did not take into account his age and probability of injury, and how long it might take to get into ‘marathon’ shape. Instead of being flexible with the desired date and plan to accomplish his goal, he quit when his plan did not work. Life happens. Adjust. Be ready with Plan B and C. Change the plan, not the vision.


Loss of motivation.

Bob wanted to run a marathon in his timeline. He was not prepared for the uncomfortable reality (time and effort) of what it takes to prepare for something of the magnitude of running a marathon. The challenges kept chipping away at his motivation.

Bob forgot to recognize his achievements made along the way. Celebrating small successes (short-term goals) can boost motivation. He was focused on the end result and the feeling that comes with the instant gratification of end-result success. The reality is that most visions of note take considerable time and effort to achieve. Wanting instant success is a sure-fire way to douse motivation.

Bob also did this on his own. He did not have supportive resources that could have provided him with tried and tested approaches: running mates (accountability and companionship), experts, doctors, physiotherapists, running groups, etc. These resources would have supported him when his motivation waned and helped him manage his expectations.

‘If you change nothing, nothing changes.’

Another reason why successful change is challenging is that people keep doing the same things over and over and expect a different result. To achieve a different result, you need to change how you do things. If you keep behaving and doing the same-old, same-old, you’re going to keep getting the same-old, same-old.

All humans are habitual beings to some extent: how we brush our teeth, get dressed, have a shower, get to work, cope with stress, and our patterns of thought.

It is not enough to want to change behavior. You need to take action by interrupting the habitual pattern and replacing it with a new one.

Think of your habitual patterns as ‘systems’. In a car factory, the systems to build a car are highly repeatable and predictable. They must be. To build a variation of a car, the system must be changed to create a different result.

It is no different for you. You must change your systems of behaving to create a different outcome.

One of the major challenges with change is knowing which existing patterns of behavior must be adjusted or dropped to allow new ones to be developed.

Back in Part 4 of the series (Choosing Authenticity and Living Your Priorities), you came to understand your highest and lowest priorities. If you are to embark on implementing a ‘system change’ you’ll need to carve out time and effort for your highest priorities. Unless you have ample free time, something else will have to go. Review low priority items and cut something out from there. Examples: TV, surfing the Internet, nightly drinking.

You will need to decide how important the change is to you. Let go of or minimize what is not important and focus on what is.

Example: Nate decides to learn Spanish.

Nate is going to travel to Latin America and Spain for vacations over the next few years. He wants to be able to speak Spanish. He signs up for in-person classes on Saturday mornings for eight weeks. He decides that in-person classes are more important than his regular routine of lying in bed till noon and reading the newspaper. He also purchases a podcast version so he can listen to it as he works out at the gym (instead of music) and when he commutes to and from work (instead of listening to the news). When he has completed the in-person training, he plans on joining a Saturday morning group to practice conversational Spanish.

Nate changed two of his systems: his Saturday morning routine and what he listened to while working out and commuting. He made choices based on new priorities and a new desired outcome – his vision of speaking Spanish.

By changing systems of behavior, Nate increased his opportunity for success. And by making Spanish a priority and having a plan, he increased his motivation and confidence for success.

Once you’ve decided on a change – whether it is your way of being or doing –  build a plan that minimizes the risk of failure, and increases the likelihood of success. Having a clear vision with flexible yet well thought out goals (change the strategy, not the vision), will help you build and maintain your motivation.

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Be on the lookout for Part 12 in this series, Tools for In-the-Moment.

For a free copy of a comprehensive PDF workbook on these tools and concepts, send me an email at [email protected].

I look forward to your comments and feedback.

For more techniques and tools for your mental and emotional well-being, check out my unique and engaging self-improvement novel, The Shift Squad


I write to inspire others to greater self-empowerment, authenticity, and improved emotional and mental well-being.

I am the author of the unique personal development novel The Shift Squad.

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