I have stories to tell, experiences and perspectives to share.
I am Rick Fortier
I am not who I used to be. The past is gone.
The present is where I live, and I’m busy creating my future.
Here’s the ‘bit’ about me.
I lived and breathed a corporate middle-class life for a number of decades, with all the trappings and pleasures that went along with it. I seemed to have the perfect middle-class life: a beautiful family, cars, house, career, and a pension on the way.
Yet, I was a mess.
I struggled with my relationships, my health, integrity, authenticity, honesty, anger, unhealthy habitual behaviours, and a general frustration with life. I felt stuck. I believed this was how a modern-day man lived. This was life.
I lied, cheated, and checked myself in to rehab. I hurt those I cared about the most, lost their trust, and lost my identity. I was self-destructing and contemplated ending-it-all.
Everything I valued, and the value of life, was slipping away. I was my own worst enemy. I did not like being me.
Then, over a period of a few months—using anger as a catalyst and deciding to fight—I changed everything, and everything has changed. I had my ‘dark night of the soul’—or nervous breakdown—and came out the other side better.
I live an amazing life today. I like being me. I’m healthier, and more at peace. I’ve re-married to an amazing woman who is my best friend, and, I am inspired to live.
I still have my faults.There are aspects of me that I want to improve. I accept this in myself, and strive to be better.
Life is still a rollercoaster, but now I’m ‘all-in’ for the ride. I no longer ‘check-out’ and escape from life’s challenges. Today, I choose to do my best and face those challenges head-on.
I’ll share with you what I’ve discovered about being a man in this seemingly complicated, corporate, soul-sucking, consumer and money-driven—yet interesting and beautiful—world.
It’s imperative for me to be real, to be authentic, open, and talk about the uncomfortable stuff—like pornography, and it’s consequences, to me, and to my relationships.
Life as a man is so damn entertaining. Come along for the ride.